About 15 to 20% of adults report receiving some form of sex abuse as kids. That’s right 15-20%. Which means, if you know 6 kids, there is a high probability that one of them is being, or will be sexually abused. This abuse can range from inappropriate and repeated touching, all the way to penetrative sex. And it is happening all around you. And it affects girls and boys equally (below the age of 12, after which girls are more affected).
But, most of it can very easily be prevented. All you need to do is to have a simple 15 minute chat with your children, once every six months. This chat does not involve talking about sex, does not involve talking about genitals, and is not an uncomfortable chat, and is not scary for children.
Here is a video of what this chat is like:
If you can’t see the video above, go to see it on YouTube
That is Dr. Bhooshan Shukla, a Child Psychiatrist going through one such session.
That’s it. That’s all you need to do.
For more detail on the Hows and the Whys and FAQs, see Dr. Shukla’s blog post on this subject. By the way, you should subscribe to his blog too.
Again, this is important, this is easy. Please do it.
And please spread the word.
This is not a problem that affects only western countries, or only kids in slums, or only kids from broken families. It affects everyone. That’s why you need to do this.
If you don’t have kids, I’m sure you know others who have kids. Please tell them about this.
If you would like such a session to be conducted in your society/school, but are not confident enough to do it on your own, you can contact me, or Dr. Shukla, or meetu (email), and we can figure something out.
Update: from Dr. Shukla on 11 August 2011:
This video is gathering steam. Almost 18,000 vies at the last
count. I am answering about 25 e-mils every day (since last one month!) about abuse and people’s experience when talking to kids. So far views and mails form over 20 countries (all 5 continents!)I think we have acquired some really good karma here.
Please continue to spread the word. Thanks.
Very useful and so beautifully done! Will share with more parents. Thanks
Excellent job, this is just exactly the gap that needed to be breached for a very long time!
Very useful for every parent. Simplified and perfect.
how it can be linked on face book !
any way i want to join ur movement !
@Sujata, this is the link to the YouTube video: http://youtu.be/6aH8Rwax09A
Just post it to Facebook and Facebook will do the rest, I believe.
Thank you, this was excellent. Will share.
Interesting way to approach Children without being embarrassed. Please pass this on to people or help spread the word to all who do not have the privilege to access the Internet or electronic media.
interesting n easy approach to the children about such things…
This video is extraordinarily important, effective, simple, graceful, and precise. The last part, the interaction with the parent, is truly as important (though much harder to do) as instructing the kids, since parents often just don’t know how to deal with disclosure.
I’ve been collaborating with RAHI (Recovering and Healing from Incest) for many years, and I’ll surely share it with everyone I can. I urge anyone who sees this video to do the same! I cannot emphasize enough how very important it is to do so. And to talk to your children asap, if you haven’t already!
Many thanks, my very best wishes and kudos, Dr. Shukla, for this wonderful work you’re doing.
PS For starters, I’m tweeting this to my whole group, twitter @nandanadevsen Please use any social network you may be part of, or even BBM, SMS, or email, to forward this critical message to all whom you know! 🙂 The link is http://youtu.be/6aH8Rwax09A
Very useful information and thank u Dr.Shukla for the message.Teachers should be trained too to put the message forward as children trust their teachers as much as their parents.
excellent worth sharing for more awareness as lots of these abuses are happening these days
Really useful I think.
It is really a very good video for the children and as well as their parents. It could proove to be very usefull if given even wider publicity.
I ll try my best to educate my children regarding the same
Thank you
Vert useful information.Every school should conduct these sessions once every six months.
very useful , infact i have been toiling with this point mentally that how should i discuss the isseus related to sex abuse with my 7 yrs old son
very handy thanks ton