What makes you happy, and what doesn’t?

What gives you happiness? This New York Times article collects together a number of tidbits from research studies that look at what are the things that make you happy and what are the things that you think will make you happy, but don’t.

Money doesn’t make you happy:

On a personal scale, winning the lottery doesn’t seem to produce lasting gains in well-being. People aren’t happiest during the years when they are winning the most promotions. Instead, people are happy in their 20’s, dip in middle age and then, on average, hit peak happiness just after retirement at age 65.

On the other hand, your relationships do make you happy.

If the relationship between money and well-being is complicated, the correspondence between personal relationships and happiness is not. The daily activities most associated with happiness are sex, socializing after work and having dinner with others. The daily activity most injurious to happiness is commuting. According to one study, joining a group that meets even just once a month produces the same happiness gain as doubling your income. According to another, being married produces a psychic gain equivalent to more than $100,000 a year.

I guess we all know that already; but it’s interesting that there’s a dollar figure attached to a happy marriage!

And, the parting thought:

The second impression is that most of us pay attention to the wrong things. Most people vastly overestimate the extent to which more money would improve our lives. Most schools and colleges spend too much time preparing students for careers and not enough preparing them to make social decisions.

See the full article – it’s short and sweet and interesting.

What should kids learn … and what can parents do

The New York Times has a great article that points out that schools are really focusing too much on things that are not directly related what the goals of primary education should be. Basically, we now understand much more about how the brain develops, and the school methods are not in line with this. For example:

In order to design a curriculum that teaches what truly matters, educators should remember a basic precept of modern developmental science: developmental precursors don’t always resemble the skill to which they are leading. For example, saying the alphabet does not particularly help children learn to read. But having extended and complex conversations during toddlerhood does.

Ok. So if we are teaching the wrong stuff, what is the right stuff? Let's think about what a student should know by the time they complete primary/middle school.

So what should children be able to do by age 12, or the time they leave elementary school? They should be able to read a chapter book, write a story and a compelling essay; know how to add, subtract, divide and multiply numbers; detect patterns in complex phenomena; use evidence to support an opinion; be part of a group of people who are not their family; and engage in an exchange of ideas in conversation. If all elementary school students mastered these abilities, they would be prepared to learn almost anything in high school and college.

This actually seems much easier than whatever we are forcing our children to excel at, doesn't it? So imagine a 3rd standard classroom based on these principles:

In this classroom, children would spend two hours each day hearing stories read aloud, reading aloud themselves, telling stories to one another and reading on their own. After all, the first step to literacy is simply being immersed, through conversation and storytelling, in a reading environment; the second is to read a lot and often. A school day where every child is given ample opportunities to read and discuss books would give teachers more time to help those students who need more instruction in order to become good readers.

As a parent, what can you do?
 

As a parent, I understand that we cannot change the school system. But we can control what we do at home. Instead of spending time helping the kids with homework, or doing tables, or spellings, or improving handwriting, or whatever it is that they are currently struggling with in school, we should just have long complex conversations with them.

What I've found is that picking up a newspaper and trying to explain any news item results in a nice complex conversation. Shiv Sena has banned My Name in Khan in Maharashtra. Why? It takes about 10 minutes to explain that in terms the kids can understand. "good man", "bad man", "man who speaks a different language", "man from a different country", "India is a country. Just like that Pakistan is a different country", etc. We have been able to successfully explain such concepts to our son when he was 5-years old, and were surprised to learn that 6 months later he still remembered the gist of the argument.

Or read a novel to them. We are reading Hardy Boys novels to our kids. To the 7 year old, we simply read the text. The 5-year old also wants the same story, but is unable to follow the English straight. So we explain the story to her in Marwadi (our mother tongue). This is a daily ritual, both at night just before they go to sleep, and in the morning when they're getting ready for school. In fact they love it so much that, "I will read you only 2 pages instead of 4" is considered a major punishment in our household.

And we encourage them to write. See here and here. By write, I don't mean the physical act of writing. I mean the composing. They usually dictate the story to one of us, and we type it in for them (without corrections) and post it.

Until now, we were doing these things just instinctively, because we enjoy the activities, and the kids enjoyed them too. Now, this article seems to suggest, that what we're doing is the right thing.

Read the whole article. In addition, also check out this article about reading, language, mother tongue, and vocabulary is also interesting in this context. As are these tweets by @drbhooshan

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The meaning of the rows and columns in Devanagari script

Gather around, children, because we are going to talk about the Devanagari alphabet today. We are interested in the consonants, not the vowels. So, here are the consonants:

क ख ग घ ङ

च छ ज झ ञ

ट ठ ड ढ ण

त थ द ध न

प फ ब भ म

य र ल व

श ष स ह

I’ve intentionally dropped the ळ क्ष ज्ञ because anyway they are poor cousins that we don’t want to throw out on the streets.

Anyway, have you ever wondered why the alphabet is always written out as a 2-dimensional table like this? Compare that with the English alphabet which is pretty much a one-dimensional sequence of alphabets without any organizational structure. There are obviously strong reasons why the devanagari alphabet is arranged in a table like this.

To get a hint, focus on the first 5 rows above. First, say aloud the letters in any one of the horizontal rows (top 5 only). Notice any similarities? Now say aloud the letters in any vertical column (just the first 5 rows). Again, notice any similarities?

Before I give the answer, here is a full table, organized according to phonetics, taken from the Wikipedia page on Devanagari

sparśa

(Stop)

anunāsika

(Nasal)

antastha
(Approximant)
ūṣma/saṃghashrī

(Fricative)

Voicing aghoṣa ghoṣa aghoṣa ghoṣa
Aspiration alpaprāṇa mahāprāṇa alpaprāṇa mahāprāṇa alpaprāṇa mahāprāṇa
kaṇṭhya

(Guttural)

ka
/k/
kha

/kʰ/

ga

/ɡ/

gha
/ɡʱ/
ṅa

/ŋ/

ha

/ɦ/

tālavya

(Palatal)

ca

/c,t͡ʃ/

cha

/cʰ,t͡ʃʰ/

ja

/ɟ,d͡ʒ/

jha

/ɟʱ,d͡ʒʱ/

ña

/ɲ/

ya

/j/

śa

/ɕ,ʃ/

mūrdhanya
(Retroflex)
ṭa

/ʈ/

ṭha

/ʈʰ/

ḍa

/ɖ/

ḍha

/ɖʱ/

ṇa

/ɳ/

ra

/r/

ṣa

/ʂ/

dantya

(Dental)

ta

/t̪/

tha

/t̪ʰ/

da

/d̪/

dha

/d̪ʱ/

na

/n/

la

/l/

sa

/s/

oṣṭhya

(Labial)

pa
/p/
pha

/pʰ/

ba

/b/

bha
/bʱ/
ma

/m/

va

/ʋ/

If you read any row horizontally, you’ll notice that your lip position and tongue position remains the same, and only the method of expelling air from your voice box, nose and mouth changes. It remains exactly the same for the first 5 columns (until the nasals), and then changes slightly for the last row (the aproximant or the fricative).

If you read any column vertically, you’ll notice that the way air comes out of our mouth/nose/voicebox remains the same and only the tongue/lip position changes.

Also, I’m sure, this is the first time many of you have figured out how to correctly pronounce ङ and ञ. (Actually, my Hindi teacher in primary school taught us that ञ is the sound made by a small child crying, and ङ is an even smaller child crying. So, obviously, none of us had any clue how exactly one is supposed to pronounce those letters.) And, also, I’m sure there are many who have now figured out the difference between श and ष for the first time. (“They are ‘same’,” is what I believed for many years due to the same Hindi teacher…)