{"id":675,"date":"2015-01-06T19:48:14","date_gmt":"2015-01-06T14:18:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/smritiweb.com\/navin\/?p=675"},"modified":"2015-01-06T19:48:15","modified_gmt":"2015-01-06T14:18:15","slug":"love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/smritiweb.com\/navin\/psychology\/love","title":{"rendered":"Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>What is love?<\/p>\n<p>Not an easy question to answer. But it does get asked often. I <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/ngkabra\/posts\/10103813195941647\">asked this question on my Facebook page<\/a> and got a bunch of really interesting responses. Worth checking out.<\/p>\n<p>In response I decided to list down a bunch of random quotes related to love.<\/p>\n<p>I want to start with this:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Love is like<br \/>\na pineapple,<br \/>\nsweet and<br \/>\nundefinable.  <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>A grook by Piet Hein<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Some people think that is silly, but I like it nevertheless.<\/p>\n<p>But I did find one definition that is concise, but seems to capture a lot of the most important characteristics of love:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>This definition rather works for me. Not perfect, but covers a lot of cases, when you really think about it.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m not talking about the infatuation that people feel when the first fall in love. Here one of my <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/ngkabra\/posts\/10103340306460957\">Facebook status update from a few months ago<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>People talk of &#8220;falling in love&#8221; as if it is a disease they catch. That&#8217;s not love, that&#8217;s infatuation. And that&#8217;s temporary &#8211; goes away in an year or two. If love could be described as a &#8220;falling in&#8221;, how can you promise to love someone forever, if the act did not involve any judgment or a decision on your part? Love is something you have to choose to do intentionally, and commit to doing against all adversities.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>Adapted from Erich Fromm&#8217;s The Art of Loving, and a forgettable 1990s movies called Boomerang.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>While you&#8217;re on this topic, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/index.php\/2014\/04\/23\/love-undetectable-andrew-sullivan-friendship\/\">this brainpickings article on why friendship is a greater gift than romantic love<\/a> is a must read.<\/p>\n<p>and related: <\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>Friedrich Nietzsche<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<hr \/>\n<p>Anyway, I&#8217;ll close out this random post with a bunch of random quotes\/poems related to love:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>I cannot bear to put away the bamboo sleeping mat.<br \/>\nThe night I brought you home, I watched you roll it out.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>Yuan Chen, 8th Century Chinese poet, talking about love<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote>\n<p>We accept the love we think we deserve.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>\u2015 Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>I do not crave nirvana.<br \/>\nI feel the embrace of freedom in a thousand bonds of delight.<br \/>\n[&#8230;]<br \/>\nNo, I will never shut the doors of my senses [&#8230;]<br \/>\nYes, all my illusions will burn into illumination of joy,<br \/>\nand all my desires ripen into fruits of love.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>Rabindranath Tagore in the Gitanjali<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Kisses are a better fate than wisdom.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>-e.e. cummings<\/p>\n<p>Ghalib points out that it&#8217;s not all happiness and roses in love:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Phir hue hain gawaah-e-ishq talab<br \/>\nAshkbaari ka hukm jaari hai  <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>translation:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Again the witnesses of love have been summoned<br \/>\nAn order to shed tears has been passed<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>Ghalib<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>John Ciardi<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote>\n<p>&#8220;Love is blind&#8221; &#8230;. &#8220;Not true. Otherwise lingerie wouldn&#8217;t be so popular&#8221; <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>Not sure where I stole this from.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote>\n<p>A dad talking about &#8216;Dad Jokes&#8217;: &#8220;I think at some level my kids know that each time they groan or say &#8216;oh dad!&#8217; to my admittedly pathetic dad jokes, they&#8217;re really saying &#8216;I love you too'&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>taken from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/Jokes\/comments\/25x850\/the_new_father\/chlq6ko?context=1\">here<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>invisible joy<br \/>\ndrenches my soul<br \/>\nI love you Absolut<\/p>\n<p>Adapted from <a href=\"http:\/\/stupidhaikus.blogspot.in\/2006\/05\/hell-yes.html\">here<\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>She who responds to &#8220;What do you want for your birthday&#8221; with &#8220;If you really loved me, you would know what I want&#8221; is going to get a Playstation 3.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Stolen from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Cave-ComMANdments-Gameroom-Novelty-Sign\/dp\/B00684HDCA\">here<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What is love? 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I want to start with this: &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/smritiweb.com\/navin\/psychology\/love\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Love<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[23,15,124,6,115],"tags":[173,171,51,120],"class_list":["post-675","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-introspection","category-philosophy","category-poetry-2","category-psychology","category-quotes","tag-definitions","tag-love","tag-poetry","tag-quotes-2"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.7 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Love - Navin Kabra&#039;s Blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/smritiweb.com\/navin\/psychology\/love\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Love - Navin Kabra&#039;s Blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"What is love? 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