Comments on: The “He will listen if you tell him” syndrome http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome Navin Kabra's blog Fri, 16 Dec 2011 17:16:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: navin http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-1697 navin Wed, 30 Dec 2009 14:10:49 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome#comment-1697 @Bhooshan, thanks for the 10:1 insight. I'm just imagining how much life would be different everywhere if everyone started implementing it... @Bhooshan, thanks for the 10:1 insight. I’m just imagining how much life would be different everywhere if everyone started implementing it…

]]> By: Dr. Bhooshan Shukla http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-1696 Dr. Bhooshan Shukla Wed, 30 Dec 2009 10:12:34 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome#comment-1696 Thanks for the Sadhu insight. It is really true. Psychology says that we take instructions from people we respect and Constructive criticism works only if offered in the ratio of 10:1 ( 10-no of times you offered praise and 1 being negative statement) most parents get this ratio reversed. I am not surprised at their failure. Thanks for the Sadhu insight. It is really true. Psychology says that we take instructions from people we respect and Constructive criticism works only if offered in the ratio of 10:1 ( 10-no of times you offered praise and 1 being negative statement) most parents get this ratio reversed.
I am not surprised at their failure.

]]> By: navin http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-1695 navin Wed, 30 Dec 2009 08:20:01 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome#comment-1695 Sarika, as the last line in the post points out, the closer a relationship, the more difficult it is to follow the advice of this post. But we have to keep trying, I guess. And yes, it definitely helps to have a third person, who is a little removed from the situation, to correct us from time to time. And... I wrote the post, not Meetu. :-) Sarika, as the last line in the post points out, the closer a relationship, the more difficult it is to follow the advice of this post. But we have to keep trying, I guess. And yes, it definitely helps to have a third person, who is a little removed from the situation, to correct us from time to time.

And… I wrote the post, not Meetu. :-)

]]> By: sarika http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-1694 sarika Wed, 30 Dec 2009 07:18:55 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome#comment-1694 BTW, Thanks for promoting my twitter ID ;) ;) BTW, Thanks for promoting my twitter ID ;) ;)

]]> By: sarika http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-1693 sarika Wed, 30 Dec 2009 07:17:31 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome#comment-1693 Meetu, Great blog. I guess everybody will agree to your views but sometimes the relationship with the person and the 'too much care' that comes with it clouds your judgement for not 'overdoing' it. I have been guilty of it many times only to be reminded by somebody not to. You need a third person perspective in this case, and if you can't do it, somebody needs to help you. Now that 'somebody - third person' might be overdoing telling you not to do it; but that's a different story :) :) It's not about them, it's always about you :) 'You' want that person to behave in a certain way :) :) Meetu,

Great blog. I guess everybody will agree to your views but sometimes the relationship with the person and the ‘too much care’ that comes with it clouds your judgement for not ‘overdoing’ it. I have been guilty of it many times only to be reminded by somebody not to. You need a third person perspective in this case, and if you can’t do it, somebody needs to help you. Now that ‘somebody – third person’ might be overdoing telling you not to do it; but that’s a different story :) :)

It’s not about them, it’s always about you :) ‘You’ want that person to behave in a certain way :) :)

]]> By: meetu http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-1692 meetu Wed, 30 Dec 2009 06:58:04 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome#comment-1692 A lovely, insightful post. Love the perfect analogies... A lovely, insightful post. Love the perfect analogies…

]]> By: Navneet Karnani http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-1690 Navneet Karnani Tue, 29 Dec 2009 05:10:32 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/navin/uncategorized/the-he-will-listen-if-you-tell-him-syndrome#comment-1690 Great conversation. I specially liked the insight about tht sadhu and rishis. Will help me deal with my mother :) Great conversation. I specially liked the insight about tht sadhu and rishis. Will help me deal with my mother :)

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