Comments on: lage raho… http://smritiweb.com/meetu/lage-raho/ . . . and she never stops . . . Tue, 06 Jan 2009 11:33:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: RAm http://smritiweb.com/meetu/lage-raho/comment-page-1/#comment-106 RAm Mon, 08 Dec 2008 15:24:14 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/meetu/?p=22#comment-106 I dont think change ever works. I think people should try and amalgamate and work around or with each other's quirks. It's not so black and white where it's my way or the highway. You dont do this with your friends, you dont expect them to change, so why do it with your near and dear ones. I dont think change ever works. I think people should try and amalgamate and work around or with each other’s quirks. It’s not so black and white where it’s my way or the highway. You dont do this with your friends, you dont expect them to change, so why do it with your near and dear ones.

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]]> By: meetu http://smritiweb.com/meetu/lage-raho/comment-page-1/#comment-77 meetu Thu, 07 Aug 2008 17:45:10 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/meetu/?p=22#comment-77 Thanks, nobody! moallif, got that! But, it's no small deal to change so the people who don't want to change are in their own way justified in making a big deal about it. (Who are we to judge how trivial or otherwise the 'change' is?) Solitary Dreamer, good point their about assertive/aggressive/submissive and well put too. I think if a person is submissive deep down, he/she has it easy. Of course, no person is submissive come what may, so it does become not-so-easy sooner or later... I wonder what other kinds of people are there. Neutral? who are neither very aggressive nor very submissive? Is there a 'rational' variety out there too? :) Ok, i digress... Thanks, nobody!

moallif, got that! But, it’s no small deal to change so the people who don’t want to change are in their own way justified in making a big deal about it. (Who are we to judge how trivial or otherwise the ‘change’ is?)

Solitary Dreamer, good point their about assertive/aggressive/submissive and well put too. I think if a person is submissive deep down, he/she has it easy. Of course, no person is submissive come what may, so it does become not-so-easy sooner or later…

I wonder what other kinds of people are there. Neutral? who are neither very aggressive nor very submissive? Is there a ‘rational’ variety out there too? :) Ok, i digress…

]]> By: Solitary Dreamer http://smritiweb.com/meetu/lage-raho/comment-page-1/#comment-76 Solitary Dreamer Thu, 07 Aug 2008 15:08:18 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/meetu/?p=22#comment-76 I could not have agreed with you more on this... although I have to say, after reading Saakshi's post first, I did go, "aaawww, sweet"... and then I read this post, and it just sounded a lot more "practical", something that happens everyday. like you said, it's not necessary to "change" as long as you can comfortably "accomodate" your significant other's choices/opinions/preferences, etc. into your personality. (but a pre-requisite for that would have to be you having a strong sense of individuality). --- in a relationship, you are not meant to make someone else happy; you want to be happy *with* that someone else. --- i have a theory, as long as two "individuals" are always on assertive track they will be headed towards a solution, any one/both of them get aggressive or submissive, the solution-seeking goes for a toss and a discussion becomes an argument and then it makes it a game of the EGOS! --- I could not have agreed with you more on this…
although I have to say, after reading Saakshi’s post first, I did go, “aaawww, sweet”… and then I read this post, and it just sounded a lot more “practical”, something that happens everyday.
like you said, it’s not necessary to “change” as long as you can comfortably “accomodate” your significant other’s choices/opinions/preferences, etc. into your personality. (but a pre-requisite for that would have to be you having a strong sense of individuality).
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in a relationship, you are not meant to make someone else happy; you want to be happy *with* that someone else.
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i have a theory, as long as two “individuals” are always on assertive track they will be headed towards a solution, any one/both of them get aggressive or submissive, the solution-seeking goes for a toss and a discussion becomes an argument and then it makes it a game of the EGOS!
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]]> By: moallif http://smritiweb.com/meetu/lage-raho/comment-page-1/#comment-75 moallif Thu, 07 Aug 2008 13:13:06 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/meetu/?p=22#comment-75 maybe the one who likes pets should try getting involved in NGOs for unloved strays or offer to pet sit for friends with pets? that's a start... i see how you are trying to bring in the 'realism' aspect into the business of relationships, but i think Sakshi was essentially pointing to brasstacks and saying, 'look, it's just that!' In other words, the power to make or break things in a relationship, lies with us, in equal measure... and that just because one chooses to exercise that power doesn't render him/her vulnerable, liable to labelled any lesser than his/her partner. maybe the one who likes pets should try getting involved in NGOs for unloved strays or offer to pet sit for friends with pets? that’s a start…
i see how you are trying to bring in the ‘realism’ aspect into the business of relationships, but i think Sakshi was essentially pointing to brasstacks and saying, ‘look, it’s just that!’ In other words, the power to make or break things in a relationship, lies with us, in equal measure… and that just because one chooses to exercise that power doesn’t render him/her vulnerable, liable to labelled any lesser than his/her partner.

]]> By: Nobody http://smritiweb.com/meetu/lage-raho/comment-page-1/#comment-74 Nobody Thu, 07 Aug 2008 04:03:45 +0000 http://smritiweb.com/meetu/?p=22#comment-74 That's the difference between wishful thinking and somebody going through the grind. The maturity and wisdom in your thinking has a solid backing of years of experience. That's why it makes a wonderful reading. Keep it up, Meetu! That’s the difference between wishful thinking and somebody going through the grind. The maturity and wisdom in your thinking has a solid backing of years of experience. That’s why it makes a wonderful reading.

Keep it up, Meetu!

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