abu? rabad?? read this to know more about them


God is great

Posted on November 21st, 2008 in imagination, navin, rabad, why? by navin

Yesterday in the afternoon, I was walking Rabad to the daycare. It was sunny and hot.

“Pappa, is winter over?”

“No baby. It is still winter, but for some reason it is hot today.”

“Oh. I want winter back. I like the cold”

Later, in the evening, unexpectedly it rained. The kids were playing downstairs, got wet in the rain, and had fun.

Today, Rabad asks me, “Pappa, is it rainy season?”

“No. It’s winter.”

“Then why did it rain?” she wanted to know.

“By mistake,” is what I could manage.

She thought about this for a while, and said:

“God is great, no? He decided to mix together rain and winter, so that we can enjoy both at the same time.”

I like her explanation better than mine…

nicknames

Posted on November 17th, 2008 in imagination, just for fun, movies, rabad by meetu

every once in a while, rabad comes up to me, extremely dissatisfied with life, “why didn’t you give me two names, why do i have only one?”

me: of course, you have two…the other one is rabad, see…

rabad (in full form - curled brows, the hint of a tear in left eye, and all): i don’t like rabad…

me: well, i think it is sweet

rabad (letting go of all dignity, wailing away): you never give me what i like…

navin: ok, i have one for you - “bollywood” and abu can be “hollywood”

rabad (instantly reducing the decibel level of the room): huh?

me: don’t like that either? how about “melodrama” for you and “drama” for bhaiyya (older brother)?
(you cannot imagine the sinister, sadistic, and completely satisfied grin on my face)

rabad is puzzled.

me: see, you asked for two we gave you four!

aren’t we the bestest parents ever?

Mind it

Posted on October 22nd, 2008 in philosophy, rabad by navin

“I want water”

It was 10pm. Rabad should have been asleep about an hour ago, but wasn’t. So she was slightly cranky too. But every once in a while, we decide that spoonfeeding is not on.

“Go get it yourself from the fridge.”

“But it dark there.”

After about 5 minutes of fruitlessly trying to convince her that she shouldn’t be afraid of the dark, and that she should quickly go to the fridge and get the water, I asked Meetu to check if the kitchen was indeed dark. We can see the dining room / kitchen from our bedroom if we crane our neck a bit. The dining room light was in fact on!

“The light is on. It is not dark. Go get water.”

Rabad remained unmoved. She was still afraid and wanted one of us to accompany her. I doubt she was very thirsty, but this unqueched desire for water that her parents weren’t fulfilling was preventing her from falling asleep, and she was getting crankier by the minute. So finally I worked out some compromise where in return for me coming with her to the kitchen, she would give up some privilege (the details are unimportant for this story) at a later date.

So I walked over to the kitchen with her and she got her water.

“See, it is not dark or scary in here. You could have come by yourself.”

“No but it is dark in the guest bedroom.”

The guest bedroom is the next room after the dining room.

“The water is not in the guest bedroom, you don’t have to go there.” I point out (feeling like congratulating myself with a ‘Logic meiN tum se koi nahiN jeet sakta Tarneja!’)

I think Rabad saw the inexorable power of my logic, but she had an ace up her sleeve.

“My brain told me.”

Being in the company of my kids for so long, I’ve become good at putting two and two together.

“Your brain told you to be afraid?”

“Yes.”

I think Shakespeare was saying pretty much the same thing when he said, “for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” And that is also more or less what they taught Meetu during 10 days of Vipassana.

“Why did your brain tell you to be afraid?”

“Because ants might come from there.”

I gave her a what-kind-of-a-silly-excuse-is-that look.

With an expression and tone that clearly indicated that she felt my pain, but she was powerless to do anything about it because it wasn’t her fault, she said, “It is a baby brain, you know.”

The elusive voice

Posted on October 21st, 2008 in abu, imagination by navin

Yesterday, I took Abu to the grocery. He loves going to the grocery because he gets to sit in the grocery cart while I push him around the store. We were doing this and and we were having some random conversation about buying Pepsi and Gatorade and brands of cereal, in general some nice father-son bonding, when half way through, he started squeaking instead of speaking normally. I looked at him with raised eyebrows.

“Papa, I am losing my voice,” he squeaked.

“Okay,” I said. This is not the first time he’d done this, so I just continued with shopping, as if nothing had happened.

“…..,” said Abu. Basically he just moved his lips, and no voice came out.

“I have no idea what you are saying, Abu.”

“…..,” mouthed Abu again. He even made some gestures that I did not understand. I shook my head.

Abu decided that this was not working, so magically, he got some of his voice back.

In a very low whisper, he said, “Papa, I …….” I did not understand the rest of what he said as he said it too softly.

“What?”

He gestured for me to bring my ear closer to his mouth. As I bent forward, he pointed upwards. This is a two-level grocery, and we could see half of the first floor from the ground floor where we were standing. He was pointing towards the first floor and whispered, “Papa, I think it is gone somewhere there.”

“Your voice has gone somewhere on the first floor, that is why you are unable to speak?”

He nodded his head vigorously, like a proud teacher who has just made his student understand some complex concept. So I gave him an understanding nod and continued with shopping.

He pulled my sleeve, and when I looked at him, gestured me again to come closer.

“Papa,” he whispered.

It was really difficult to hear this low whisper in the crowded, noisy grocery. He was trying to help along with hand gestures.

“Papa, I will t.. s…….. ….” the last part was unintelligible.

“You will what?”

“t.. s…….. …,” accompanied with one had going around another.

“You will tie something?”

Again the delighted nodding of the head. This had now pretty much turned into a dump charades game.

“Papa I will tie something w… a r…, ” now an action like throwing out a fishing line and reeling it in.

“You will tie something with a rope?”

Correct.

Rabad was away for a 2-hour drawing class. Meetu was off working (i.e. watching movies). So I was in no hurry to finish off the shopping. So in the middle of the grocery aisle, our game continued. Probably in his excitement, Abu whispered a little louder than before, so I got the whole sentence:

“Papa I will tie something with a rope and then pull it.”

Huh?!

“What?”

He is still talking in a whisper, but I have my ear close to his mouth, and the music system is playing some sad, soft number instead of a loud “Sinngh is Kinng” remix, so I can hear him (although barely).

“Papa I will tie something with a rope. Something that the voice likes. Then I will pull it. And the voice will come behind it, and I will catch it.”

Glad to have that cleared out, we continued with shopping. At the checkout counter, I was pretty much composing this blog post in my head, and noticed Abu throwing his imaginary rope towards the first floor and pulling it in.

Sure enough, by the time I had paid the bill, Abu says: “Papa, did you notice that I can talk now?” Yup! “I tried that idea and it worked!”

Maybe I should give Scott Adams this advice for his voice problems.

Abu the writer

Posted on September 17th, 2008 in abu, activities by navin

Abu is a big fan of stories and story books. Harry Potter (he knows the names of all 7 books), Dinosaurs (he can recognize more dinosaurs from their photos than I can), Indian Mythology (Ram, Sita, Krishna, and now the dash-avatar). In fact, as part of bedtime reading over the last year or so, meetu and I have read the entire “Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone” (without skipping anything) to him, and now we are no Chapter 5 of “Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets”.

Recently he has gotten interested in writing his stories. He has a little four-line notebook in which he writes stories, one page at a time. The first story, is called “Hanuman’s story”, and spans seven pages. He has just finished his second story, “Sita’s story”, which I haven’t read yet. 

He sits by himself and writes the story. Whenever he gets stuck on the spelling of some word, he asks meetu or me, and we help out. But sometimes he thinks he knows the spelling and goes ahead without asking us. Those are left as they are in the text below, as an exercise for the motivated reader to figure out what Abu was trying to say.

Other than help with spellings, everything else is by Abu. All the sentence constructions and punctuation are his. He understands a little about periods (”full stop”) at the end of a sentence, but not entirely as you can see below. As you will see, he hasn’t yet heard of the comma.

Anyway, on to the story:

Hanuman Story - Page 1

Ram and Sita both were married to each other. Then Ravan kidnapped Sita. Then Ram got his little brother Laxman to help him to find

Hanuman Story - Page 2
Sita. They went looking for Sugreev to help find Sita. Instead they found Hanuman, he took Ram and Laxman on his shoulders and he took them to Sugreev.

Hanuman Story - Page 3
Sugreev said will you help me kill Bali. Ram said I will if you help me find Sita yes I will help you find Sita so Ram killed Bali and they went to find

Hanuman Story - Page 4
Sita. They went and went and they made a brij and they went across it they went and they killed Ravan and they came home. Then Ram too Saita home.

Hanuman Story - Page 5
Then Sita gave Hanuman a pearl necklace to sea thank you. He broke the pearls. Sita asked why are you breaking the pearls because I have to see Ram and Sita’s photo in all the

Hanuman Story - Page 6
gift I get. Sita said if there is no photo of Ram & Sita in your chest will you break your chest so he opened his chest and there was Ram & Sita’s photo in it so he laft his hand and. Holes

Hanuman Story - Page 7
had vanished and every body was happy.

the end

Rabad the painter

Posted on September 17th, 2008 in activities, imagination, rabad by navin

Rabad loves drawing and coloring. She goes to a drawing class three times a week, where they teach her how to copy drawings made by her teacher and then color them with crayons. Even otherwise, she spends a lot of time drawing or coloring - with crayons, sketch pens, or water colors. She can literally spend hours doing this. 

Disneys Mermaid - Crayons on wipe-off white sheet

Disney's Mermaid - Crayons on wipe-off white sheet

Sometimes she just colors inside an existing picture, like this one of Disney’s little mermaid. This was impressive because the picture is actually huge - maybe 3-1/2 feet by 2-1/2 feet. And she wasn’t satisfied until she had finished coloring the whole thing.

 

Then there’s this example of a picture that she drew herself and then colored.

House, Temple and Hills - Sketch pens on paper

House, Temple and Hills - Sketch pens on paper

But more often these days, she skips the drawing part and simply starts coloring - like the next two pictures.

Abstract Painting - Orange and Blue - sketch pens

Abstract Painting - Orange and Blue - sketch pens

and

Abstract Painting - Blue and Green - Water colors

Abstract Painting - Blue and Green - Water colors

It’s all very simple

Posted on September 1st, 2008 in abu, what? by meetu

our cousin spent the day with us yesterday. she had an interesting conversation with abu-rabad, which i asked her to jot down for your reading pleasure. over to babli, abu-rabad’s 24 year old, buaji (paternal aunt)…

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Abu was busy writing a story and Rabad was completing her drawing.

Suddenly Rabad asked me, “Babli buaji, how many days you are going to stay with us?” I said I’d be with them till Monday morning since I had to go to office then.

Both the kids were surprised to hear that I’m so much older to them. They were surprised to know that I’d completed my school, college, and now I was working in an office like papa.

Of course, Rabad had her next question ready - “Babli buaji are you someone’s mama?” Now, I was surprised and before I could answer Abu replied - “No she is not married!!!!!”

Now Rabad wanted to know how to get married, to which Abu replied –

“For a girl to get married we have to find a boy for her.

Once we have found a boy then the girl should love the boy and the boy should also love the girl.

Only then they get married.”

I cannot explain my reaction to this answer in words…. It was so true. I would have never been able to explain what marriage is to Rabad, in such an easy way.

The complexity of the word marriage was made so simple by Abu….

This incidence made me realize kids learn what we want them to learn. They are so innocent, they believe in what they see, listen and feel. They are so inquisitive about everything.

Hats off to bhaiya and bhabi (that’d be hubby dear and me ;)). Abu and Rabad are smart, intelligent and yet so innocent! :)

Cheers,

Babli

Hungry and Sleepy

Posted on August 19th, 2008 in abu, imagination by navin

A couple of days back we were generally chatting in the evening.

“I am hungry,” said Rabad.

“And, I am sleeply,” said Abu.

Then, having thought about this information for a while, Abu presented his analysis.

“Rabad is hungry, and I am sleepy,” he said, “We both have feelings, you know.”

I blame it on TV.

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Today, Abu and I were alone at home. It was getting close to his bedtime and he hadn’t yet eaten.

“I am hungry, Dax,” he announced. For reasons beyond my understanding, he has taken to calling me Dax. Or Dados.

“I am hungry, and I am very sleepy.” he continued,  “If hungry is red, and sleepy is blue, then I am purple.”

If blue is amused, and red is proud, I am purple.

Sweet dreams!!

Posted on July 30th, 2008 in aaaaawww, abu by navin

It’s 7:15am, and Abu needs to start getting ready for school by 7:30. He also likes to watch a little TV before that. And, if some day, he doesn’t wake up before 7:30, he gets a little grumpy because he didn’t get to watch TV.

So I go to his room and try to wake him.

“Abu, wake up, or you’ll miss TV.”

Abu stirs. Opens his eyes. Looks at me.

Frowns.

Then says, “I didn’t finish my dream!”

Short pause.

“I want to finish it.”

And goes back to sleep.

So here I am, thinking that I’ll let him sleep for as long as he wants.

The school bus comes every day. But, a dream that cannot wait, cannot wait…

tlc

Posted on July 24th, 2008 in aaaaawww, abu, rabad by meetu

contusion july 2008

that’s abu’s foot. this is a common occurrence in our household, so not to worry. we have a bone contusion which is not a fracture but deserves a plaster to be on the safer side.

so be it.

there’s more to this post than just “look, he hurt his foot.”

now, just because it’s a common occurrence doesn’t mean we deprive the children of our tender, loving care, ok? so, 4-5 hours in the last couple of nights have been spent listening to “ow, ow, ow it hurts” now, how it decides to hurt only at night, has always been a mystery.

how? the day before yesterday, abu, rabad and a couple of friends from the building, t-man and little-terror-a, were playing a game of “let’s break this huge, heavy loose tile into smaller pieces by throwing it on the floor” and one of the pointed pieces in t-man’s hands ended up on abu’s foot. of course, i tried to stop them, but a little too late.

anyhow, last evening i decided that i need to go for my walk and its high time (as the doctor recommends) that abu start walking around. i use my usual line, “i’m going down for a walk, you can join me or stay at home by yourself” usually this means, both of them come wagging behind and start playing with their friends when they reach down.

abu - ma you go, i will stay home alone…

rabad - i’ll stay with him, don’t worry. he’ll take care of me

me - uhhh…he needs to be taken care of, who’ll do that?

totally expecting an “aaaaawww” moment, i had a smile in my mind.

rabad - t-man! we’ve called him, he’s coming over in 5 minutes…

yep! the same t-man!!!

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ps1. i think, they have set it in their mind, that older person takes care of younger, and t-man is few months older. outlook needs to change…

ps2. t-man was very, very apologetic immediately after he threw the tile and much later too.

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